How to talk to loved ones about getting a COVID-19 vaccine

Lake Regional Health System

If you've been vaccinated against COVID-19, you know it can be a big relief. And you may be eager for your friends and loved ones to take advantage of that opportunity too.

“Some people still need to build vaccine confidence,” said Billye Bennett, R.N., education coordinator at Lake Regional. “It can be difficult to know how to have a conversation about their concerns. This is new territory for all of us, after all.”

But if you're ready to dive into those conversations, your support can make a difference — if you offer it in a positive way. Here are some tips:

1. Listen without judgment. It's normal to have questions or concerns about new vaccines. Before you were vaccinated, you may have had some doubts at first too. It's important to acknowledge any concerns your loved one has and try to understand them. Try to ask open-ended questions and really listen to the answers without interrupting.

“Remember: The goal is not to win an argument,” Bennett said. “It's to learn what the other person is worried about and to offer information that could put their mind at ease.”

2. Share facts — but ask first. Sometimes people just need accurate information to help them make up their minds. But ask for permission to share what you know. They may be more open to listening and less likely to be defensive that way.

It may help people to know that:

The Moderna, Pfizer, and Johnson & Johnson vaccines are nearly 100% effective at preventing hospitalizations and deaths from COVID-19.

Most side effects are mild, such as a sore arm or tiredness. Some people have no side effects at all. Serious allergic reactions or blood clots are extremely rare.

While the COVID-19 vaccines are new, scientists have been working with the technology for mRNA and viral vector vaccines for more than 20 years.

Diverse groups of people took part in the vaccine studies.

By far, most doctors who have been offered the vaccines have taken them. This is true nationwide, as well as at Lake Regional.

COVID-19 vaccines are free, regardless of whether someone has insurance.

3. Help them find their why. Why did you choose to be vaccinated? Some people do it because they want to be safer or to be able to spend time with their grandkids. Others just want to help the world move a little closer to normal.

“Sharing your reasons with your loved ones might help them to identify theirs,” Bennett said. “And it doesn't hurt to remind them that you love and care about them — and want them to be healthy and safe.”

4. Offer to help navigate the system. Maybe your friend is willing to get a vaccine but doesn't know how to get an appointment. Could you offer to help? If you've already been vaccinated, you know the ropes. And helping to set up the appointment may be quicker, easier and less stressful for you. Either way, let them know that all Missouri adults, as well as non-residents, can get a COVID-19 vaccine through a Lake Regional primary care clinic.  

5. Know when to press pause. If either of you becomes upset, take a break from the discussion. Maybe you'll be able to pick it up in a more positive way later. Maybe not. But whatever your loved one decides, you still want to have a good relationship when all is said and done.

To learn more about the safety and efficacy of the COVID-19 vaccine, visit To find a Lake Regional primary care clinic, visit