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  • Lake view: Dating and cheating in the 21st century­

  • In today's world "Singles bars" are a thing of the past and Internet dating has become all the rage. Today's singles can log on and in an instant be connected with other like-minded folks seeking companionship, hooking up, dating, love or marriage.
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  • In today's world "Singles bars" are a thing of the past and Internet dating has become all the rage. Today's singles can log on and in an instant be connected with other like-minded folks seeking companionship, hooking up, dating, love or marriage.
    Through hundreds if not thousands of dating sites, love, romance or affairs are just a click away. In one single session on one of these sites folks can easily scroll through five hundred or more profiles of other single subscribers. Many dating sites charge fees for their services while others are absolutely free. One of the nation's most popular free dating sites is POF or Plenty of Fish.
    There are specific/targeted dating sites available such as Match.com, Christian Mingle or Our Time for folks over fifty wishing to meet age appropriate singles.
    These sites narrow the potential candidates for dating but they also offer fewer contacts. Most sites offering specific types of members normally charge more for this time saving service to their limited subscribers.
    Setting up a profile involves a few screens of information, some photographs and the user is off and running. One woman I know actually had 980 men writing to her on the Plenty of Fish site!
    Modern courtship on these dating sites begin with a brief comment followed by a response (hopefully), longer written exchanges (chats) and then finally phone conversations.
    This does not mean that there will be an inevitable date yet. Women on these dating sites very often do background checks of their potential male partners on social media and/or by actually paying for an on line background check.
    After all the steps are completed the lucky man who has passed all the prerequisites may finally meet the woman of his desires.
    Dating on these sites is still semi-traditional in the sense that the men most often initiate the contact and the women respond to those that spike their interest.
    For the men it can be quite the task to stand out among the hundreds of other men competing for the ladies. There are still many of the traditional pitfalls and dangers which have always existed in the dating world.
    There are married women and men on these dating sites looking for a quick affair on the side.
    There are predatory daters looking to con the unsuspecting and there are downright criminals trolling the Internet dating highway. Caution must be observed whenever meeting someone on a dating site.
    With the proliferation of these dating sites very often it proves too much of a temptation for people who are in committed relationships or married to check them out and get into trouble very quickly.
    Page 2 of 2 - For those of us that dated in the ‘70s, ‘80s or ‘90s, dating in the 21st century requires new skills to have any chance at all in today's dating world.
    When compared to the simpler method of walking up to a woman at a single's bar and striking up an immediate conversation face-to-face, today's dating scene requires ingenuity. In many ways Internet dating seems more sophisticated, intelligent, easier and convenient.
    I say that if today's single woman is tech savvy, dating in the 21st century can be a lot safer than it was in the past. Of course meeting that "perfect" man or woman can be very difficult even in today's dating scene, all these new tools should increase your chances if you are willing to put in the extra work required.
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